Oral Stimulation

Our mouth is the cradle of satisfaction when we choose to deliberately tickle, tantalize, massage and pleasure the object of our focus. Deliberately forming our lips around the very framework of our intention. Making sure our teeth do not bite or distract. With effort, we remain sensitive to the vulnerable nature the receiver has allowed us to place them in, in order to experience this desirable feeling. Refusing to inflict irreparable harm, staying focus on giving and keeping safe the receiver. Wanting to convey care with deliberate attention, ignoring our own preferences (for we often give what we want and not what the receiver requires). Remembering that the gift is for the receiver enables us to remain attentive to the goal, choosing the method (like a student) that works. Suspending our assumptions about “knowing” replacing instead attunement to the rhythmical breathing and posturing which provides clear instructions about what is effective in exacting our intention. And the receiver rejoices as they become enveloped in the existential ecstasy, signaling satisfaction has been sustained and our goal attained.


Thus is the power of our words when we speak. With each breath (during a tense moment) we can choose not to bite and hold with callous disregard our partner, focusing only on our own need to release tension by choosing talk methods that have proven ineffective yet employed time and time again. Refusing to release the goal of “winning” or “getting my point across” replacing instead the desire to “understand” because that feels foreign or weak.


Despite the desire to discuss “hot” topics differently, we find the same talk patterns revisited like a good old friend, yet the visit is not pleasant and the friend is not home. We desire a different outcome yet continue the same debate pattern of defeat.


Needing, desiring, wanting a different outcome yet blaming each other for not knowing how is fruitless. Instead of sparring like opponents, consider working together like a team.


Keep the teammate. Change the strategy. Be willing to learn something new together.


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